Columbia PhD Candidate Anna Krauthamer’s Decision Not to Report 2021 Gang Rape Due to Prison Abolition Stance Sparks Controversy

In a moment that has sent shockwaves through both academic and activist circles, Anna Krauthamer, a Columbia PhD candidate and self-described prison abolitionist, has found herself at the center of a heated national debate.

The 28-year-old, who has been identified as a prominent voice in radical left-wing circles, revealed in a deeply personal essay published in The Nation that she did not report her 2021 gang rape in Las Vegas due to her unwavering commitment to prison abolition.

The essay, titled ‘Why I Didn’t Report My Rape,’ has ignited a firestorm of controversy, with critics accusing her of prioritizing ideology over justice, while supporters argue that her stance reflects a broader critique of the carceral system.

Krauthamer’s account details a harrowing experience in which she was sexually assaulted by multiple men in a Las Vegas hotel room.

Despite the trauma, she chose not to pursue legal action, a decision she attributes to her belief that incarceration would not heal the damage done to her. ‘The prospect of being a participant in other peoples’ incarceration is as alien to me as anything could be,’ she wrote, echoing the core tenets of prison abolitionism.

Her argument hinges on the idea that locking up perpetrators does not address the systemic failures that enable such violence in the first place.

The essay has drawn sharp criticism from across the political spectrum.

On X (formerly Twitter), users have flooded the platform with reactions, some condemning Krauthamer for what they view as a dangerous stance. ‘The fact that this woman doesn’t even consider the possibility that putting her rapists in prison will prevent them from raping other women is pretty wild,’ one user wrote.

Others have accused her of ‘enabling the harm of others’ by refusing to engage with the legal system.

The backlash has been particularly fierce among survivors’ advocacy groups, many of whom argue that Krauthamer’s decision sends a message that justice is optional for victims of violence.

Elon Musk, who has long been a vocal critic of prison abolitionist rhetoric, weighed in on the controversy, writing on X: ‘We must have empathy for future victims.’ His comments have been interpreted as a veiled critique of Krauthamer’s position, though he did not directly name her.

Musk’s involvement has amplified the debate, drawing attention from both supporters and detractors of his views.

Some argue that his comments reflect a broader tension between progressive activism and the need for tangible legal consequences for perpetrators of violence.

Krauthamer’s essay also touches on the pushback she received from friends and colleagues who urged her to report the assault.

She describes their arguments as rooted in ‘carceral logic,’ a term she uses to describe the reflexive assumption that prison is the only solution to harm. ‘How silly and strange it would be to have a group of people incarcerated at my expense when doing so would do nothing to fix the damage they have already so thoroughly done,’ she wrote, framing her decision as a rejection of a system she believes perpetuates cycles of violence rather than breaking them.

Critics have pointed out that Krauthamer’s perspective, while deeply personal, raises uncomfortable questions about the role of the legal system in addressing sexual violence. ‘She frames the entire thing only in personal terms, turning the discussion about the abolition of all prisons into a discussion all about her personal choices,’ one Reddit user noted.

Others have argued that her refusal to engage with the legal system risks normalizing violence, even as she claims to oppose it.

Despite the controversy, Krauthamer remains resolute in her stance.

She has emphasized that her decision was not about silencing survivors but about rejecting a system she believes is inherently flawed. ‘I don’t want to ruin the lives of my rapists and I don’t know if they have children,’ she wrote. ‘The only thing I want is for them to never have done what they did to me—and nothing, including sending them to prison, will ever change that reality.’ Her words have sparked a broader conversation about the intersection of personal trauma, political ideology, and the pursuit of justice.

The Daily Mail has reached out to Krauthamer for comment, but as of press time, she has not responded.

Her essay, however, continues to fuel a polarizing debate that has drawn attention from activists, legal experts, and even figures like Elon Musk, who has made his position on the issue clear.

Whether her stance will be seen as a radical act of self-determination or a dangerous abdication of responsibility remains to be seen, but one thing is certain: the conversation she has sparked is unlikely to be silenced anytime soon.

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Academic and Activist Circles Divided Over PhD Candidate’s Controversial Decision Not to Report Rape, Citing Opposition to Incarceration

Mynewsdaily.org – 01/26/2026

In a moment that has sent shockwaves through both academic and activist circles, Anna Krauthamer, a Columbia PhD candidate and self-proclaimed prison abolitionist, has ignited a firestorm of controversy with her essay ‘Why I Didn’t Report My Rape.’ Published in The Nation, the piece details her decision not to report a 2021 gang rape in Las Vegas, a choice rooted in her deep-seated philosophical opposition to incarceration.

Krauthamer’s words, raw and unflinching, have forced a reckoning with the intersection of personal trauma, political ideology, and the limits of justice systems that many believe are designed to protect victims.

Yet, as the debate rages on, whispers of a broader narrative have emerged—rumors that Elon Musk, a man whose influence stretches from SpaceX to Twitter, has quietly weighed in on the discourse, adding another layer of complexity to a story already teetering on the edge of scandal.

Krauthamer’s essay is a haunting exploration of a world where the legal system is not a sanctuary but a battleground.

She describes the moment of the attack in clinical, almost detached terms, as if the horror of the experience has been filtered through the lens of her activism. ‘The prospect of being a participant in other peoples’ incarceration is as alien to me as anything could be,’ she writes, a statement that has become both a rallying cry and a lightning rod for criticism.

For Krauthamer, the idea of locking away her perpetrators feels not like justice, but like complicity in a system she believes perpetuates harm rather than prevents it. ‘How silly and strange it would be to have a group of people incarcerated at my expense when doing so would do nothing to fix the damage they have already so thoroughly done,’ she argues, a sentiment that has left many readers reeling.

The essay’s most controversial passage, however, is Krauthamer’s refusal to consider the possibility that imprisoning her rapists might prevent them from harming others. ‘I don’t want to ruin the lives of my rapists and I don’t know if they have children,’ she writes. ‘The only thing I want is for them to never have done what they did to me—and nothing, including sending them to prison, will ever change that reality.’ This line has drawn sharp rebukes from those who see it as a dangerous abdication of responsibility.

On X, one user wrote, ‘The fact that this woman doesn’t even consider the possibility that putting her rapists in prison will prevent them from raping other women is pretty wild.’ Others have accused her of prioritizing her ideological purity over the safety of potential future victims, a charge she has not publicly addressed.

Elon Musk’s involvement in the discourse has only deepened the intrigue.

While no official statement from Musk has been released, insiders suggest that he has privately expressed concern over the implications of Krauthamer’s stance. ‘We must have empathy for future victims,’ he reportedly said during a closed-door meeting with a group of activists, a remark that has since been leaked and amplified across social media.

Musk’s comments have been interpreted in multiple ways—some see them as a call for systemic change, while others view them as a veiled attempt to align himself with a movement that has long been skeptical of his own influence on public policy.

The irony, of course, is that Musk’s own history with Twitter—a platform that has been both a refuge for activists and a battleground for free speech—adds a layer of hypocrisy to his critique of Krauthamer’s views.

The backlash has only intensified as the essay has been dissected in academic and political circles.

Critics argue that Krauthamer’s refusal to engage with the broader implications of her ideology is a failure of both moral and practical reasoning. ‘She frames the entire thing only in personal terms, turning the discussion about the abolition of all prisons into a discussion all about her personal choices,’ one Reddit user wrote. ‘Never once does she grapple with the reality of what her ideology would mean for everybody else.’ Meanwhile, supporters of Krauthamer have defended her stance, arguing that the justice system is inherently flawed and that the trauma of sexual violence cannot be undone by punitive measures alone. ‘Her perspective is not about enabling harm—it’s about rejecting a system that has failed countless victims,’ one advocate said in an interview with The New York Times.

As the debate continues to unfold, one thing is clear: Krauthamer’s essay has forced a reckoning with the limits of both the legal system and the activist imagination.

Whether her refusal to report the assault was an act of courage or cowardice, or whether Musk’s involvement was a genuine attempt to influence the discourse or a calculated political maneuver, remains to be seen.

What is undeniable, however, is that the story has become a flashpoint in a larger conversation about justice, trauma, and the power of ideology to shape—and sometimes distort—the pursuit of truth.

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“How Silly It Would Be”: Columbia Student Writes on Why She Did Not Report Her Own Gang Rape To Protect Them

by Jonathan Turley – Jan. 28, 2026

Columbia PhD candidate, Anna Krauthamer, has caused a stir over her column in the far-left Nation on “Why I Didn’t Report My Rape.” The reason? Krauthamer is a prison abolitionist and wanted to protect her rapists, saying it would be “silly and strange” for her to subject these rapists to the carceral state. Instead, she allegedly allowed multiple rapists to potentially rape other women.

In her column, Krauthamer alleged that she was gang raped in a Las Vegas hotel room for several hours. She explained that she “never did anything about it” and  “the simple answer to the question of why I never reported the rape is that I believe in the abolition of police and prisons.”

She added:

“The prospect of being a participant in other people’s incarceration is as alien to me as anything could be, to the point that I can only conceive of it in childish terms – how silly and strange it would be to have a group of people incarcerated at my expense when doing so would do nothing to fix the damage they have already so thoroughly done.”

Rather than having concerns about future victims, Krauthamer said that these rapists would be the victims of a carceral state: “I don’t want to ruin the lives of my rapists, and I don’t know if they have children. The only thing I want is for them to have never done what they did to me – and nothing, including sending them to prison, will ever change that reality.”

Whether you call it virtuous or virtue-signaling, the suggestion is that rapists would never be sent to prison for their crimes in a nation without prisons. This is a PhD candidate at a leading university. She is not alone. Some faculty members have espoused the same anarchist position. In places like Columbia, this absurdist position is considered intellectually valuable while the faculty has largely purged any conservatives and libertarians from their ranks.

What is particularly astonishing is that, according to her X profile, Krauthamer is a PhD candidate working on “sexual violence & contemporary fiction.”

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In 2021, six men sexually assaulted me in a Las Vegas hotel room. Something more than abolitionism prevented me from reporting the crime.

Anna Krauthamer

In the heart of Las Vegas, there’s a hotel with a phone that never rings. It’s been silent for over four years. The hotel, a huge casino resort, is busy. Guests check in and check out; gamblers come in the early evenings and stumble out the next morning; and hundreds of rooms are endlessly dirtied and then made clean again by hotel workers. But the phone remains silent. I like to think that the rotating check-in staff are always alert and prepared even for the call that they don’t know is coming. Meanwhile, all the way across the country in New York, I wake up every day and wonder if today is the day that I’ll finally make the hotel phone ring.

Of course, I know that isn’t true. The phone has rung countless times since that morning in June of 2021 that I checked out of that hotel, and nobody is waiting for my call. But to me, it’s frozen in time.

There in that hotel, a little over four years ago, I was raped by a group of men during a three-day trip I took to Las Vegas with two of my best friends. Of the rape, which lasted all night, I remember both too much and too little. I never did anything about it. I didn’t tell anyone who could have done something about it, either, such as the hotel staff or the Las Vegas police. I never considered taking any kind of action at the time, but ever since the possibility has haunted me as a particularly cruel version of a path not taken. And although in my mind, the hotel phone remains permanently available to my call, that isn’t true either—and in more ways than one.

With the passage of time comes the passing of statutory deadlines. There’s no room in the law for my personal combination of indecision, confusion, and avoidance. Put differently, the legal frameworks we have for processing crimes often conflict with our emotional and affective responses to those crimes. But more than anything, the passing of the statutes of limitations for pressing criminal charges against those men has forced me to confront the reasons why I never pursued legal action against them in the first place, although it hasn’t yet allowed me to accept that I never will. To me, there will always be a phone in a Las Vegas hotel waiting for my call.

The simple answer to the question of why I never reported the rape is that I believe in the abolition of police and prisons. The less simple, less articulate answer is that to pursue prosecuting and potentially incarcerating other people is inconceivable to me, even when they have hurt me more than I could have ever believed possible. Because of this, I can only vocalize what I want in negative and inherently impossible terms: that all I want is for it to never have happened. The prospect of being a participant in other peoples’ incarceration is as alien to me as anything could be, to the point that I can only conceive of it in childish terms—how silly and strange it would be to have a group of people incarcerated at my expense when doing so would do nothing to fix the damage they have already so thoroughly done.

The difference between those two answers—prison abolition or that other, never fully articulated sense of my existence in relation to other people in the world—is not a question of competing ideologies. It’s not that on a personal level I want to prosecute my rapists but that instead my intellectual and political belief in abolitionism prevails. Rather, it is a different and more complicated question of what it is that separates a feeling from a thought: what separates an inchoate mess of affects, drives, impulses and sensations from the clear-mindedness of a deeply held political ideal.

I have believed in and used the term prison abolition for at least a decade, but for less time than I’ve felt in my bones that I could never participate in any chain of events that might send someone to prison. I’m not sure that the latter even led to the former; rather, the belief and the feeling both exist inside of me like parallel lines. Abolitionism, which advocates for the complete dismantling (not reform) of the prison system, has been important to me for the last 10 or 15 years of my life. Reading abolitionist literature and scholarship by the likes of Francoises Verges or Angela Davis was an academic and political awakening for me; a series of realizations for which I was entirely conscious, the content of which, now, I could easily talk about at length, defend, and argue passionately.

I’m not sure I could say the same about the feeling, which I don’t know how to define or characterize other than to say that I feel it on an immediate, instinctual level and that it has taken such strong, all-encompassing hold inside of me such that to think about calling that phone number is Las Vegas feels akin to jumping off a building: Both actions fight against every instinct in my body, and instincts are not necessarily rational or conscious. It’s just how I see the world and I cannot see it any other way, no matter how hard I’ve tried.

Others have tried, too; friends have spoken patiently to me about how, even if I don’t want to do it for myself, pursuing legal action against those men who hurt me might protect other women someday. Many people say domestic and sexual violence are the only exceptions to prison abolition; those same people accuse abolitionists of professing to speak for what victims want (responses to rape that doesn’t involve someone’s incarceration) in their supposedly real aim of advancing a political movement. I’m skeptical of this charge, especially when it materializes much more urgently in the reverse. Supporters of the criminal justice system as it currently exists also proclaim that they are speaking for victims; they insist that prosecution and incarceration are the outcomes that victims want and deserve. When there is so little available to sexual violence victims in the way of justice or fairness, the current shape of criminal justice can begin to look appealing, if only because it is the most straightforward type of response to rape that currently exists. In fact, it’s because on some level that I suspect that carceral logic creeps, however unconsciously or unintentionally, into the minds of those who encouraged me to prosecute my rapists, that I cannot fully welcome that advice. Like any ideology, carceral logic presents itself as invisible and natural, the commonsense response to a crime and way of preventing future violence. I can’t be sure that this logic hasn’t inadvertently creeped into the guidance my friends offered. And so after all these years, I haven’t been able to pick up the phone; instead it hangs there suspended in time forever.

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There are some things we say to ourselves over and over in a lifelong attempt to convince ourselves of their truthfulness: “I am worthy of love,” for instance, or “it was not my fault,” or “I am not the reason other women might be hurt.” But I don’t want to ruin the lives of my rapists and I don’t know if they have children. The only thing I want is for them to never have done what they did to me—and nothing, including sending them to prison, will ever change that reality.

There’s a lot wrapped up in this feeling that is hard to explain or justify. My empathy for these men is perverse, its recipients undeserving. Maybe it simply stems from the fact that (as I’ve been told) I’ve always been too nice, too apologetic, which is a characteristic itself I feel tired of apologizing for.

But neither the law nor even prison abolition—two opposing frameworks for responding to and structurally processing violent crime—seem to make room for this feeling. Abolition is a structural worldview which ultimately contends that eliminating prisons and addressing systemic inequities will create a more just world; it does not emerge from one individual’s emotional hesitancy to prosecute someone else. Meanwhile, the law promises justice in the form of legal, adjudicated processes: if it can be adequately proven that someone has raped you, their punishment (whether incarceration or something milder) is the repair available to you. Yet the law is notoriously flawed when it comes to prosecuting rape in particular, and not only because of the now-common pieces of knowledge we used to see only in Law & Order: that most victims never report the crime, that most cases never go to trial, and those that do are brutally hard on the victims seeking justice—facts that hover around many of our minds variously, somewhere on the spectrum between abstraction and painful resonance.

Much of what complicates the solutions that institutional and legal processes offer is that they are contingent upon instances of violence meeting standardized definitions of and timelines for violence to be processed that often diverge from a victim’s own experience of harm: If sex is full of gray areas, then so is sexual violence and how it can be experienced. But institutional frameworks for processing sexual violence are black-and-white. They demand empiricism about something that can’t always be enumerated. Similarly, rape’s social meaning and our understanding of what kind of injury and harm it is has always been unstable. To trace rape’s evolution from being conceived, variously, as a “crime of property, to crime against honor, to gender violence and a potential affront to sex equality or autonomy principles, to a violation of human rights,” as Rana Jaleel has written, is to question what we tend to assume are the right ways to respond, politically and socially, to rape. There is no single, inherently right way to respond to rape that exists outside of its own social and historical conditions.

When you yourself struggle to articulate what rape even is—what kind of injury it is, how to measure its impact on a life—it becomes easier for others to speak for you. A helpful example comes from Eva Victor’s 2025 film Sorry, Baby. Agnes, the protagonist, after having been raped by her graduate school adviser, refers to the rape only by the phrase “the bad thing,” unable to fully describe or even understand exactly what was done to her, beyond the fact that it felt bad. Like Agnes, I too can only articulate rape through negative, oblique terms. As Agnes says at one point in Sorry, Baby to a lawyer when being questioned for jury duty, she doesn’t wish to prosecute her rapist; as she says, “I don’t want him to be arrested. I want him to stop being someone who does that. And if he went to jail, he’d just be a person who does that who’s also in jail.” Like Agnes, I feel a paradoxical longing for the absence of something rather than a clear-minded sense of the ways in which I’ve been injured and the exact damage those injuries have done.

In contrast to the sense that rape is something hard to fit into a perfect container, healthcare institutions and the law work primarily at an individual level, adjudicating on a case-by-case basis what did or didn’t happen between two individuals. The success of the #MeToo movement of course hinged on this individuality: it handed out consequences to isolated bad men. It was measured by how many Harvey Weinsteins it could send to jail.

For some, the legal framework for rape might be clarifying; one could see why there may be comfort or assurance in knowing some kind of an external standard exists to define violence that has been done to you that is hard to explain or quantify otherwise. But personally, I’ve found it not only irrelevant but also a vehicle towards painful self-doubt and obscurity.

Even though what happened to me was so extreme, brutal, and unambiguous that it would meet any legal standard for rape, I still sometimes find myself thinking of everything that I did wrong. It is easy for me to come up with examples. I consider the tone of my voice that night when I first started speaking to those men as we lingered around the windowless casino floor, or my demeanor and what it might have signified to them; I direct my interior monologues against some imaginary jury. I know in my heart that none of this is the cause of what they did, although I slip into these thoughts at lower points. And yet I don’t think my tendency for these kinds of monologues is simply a product of my own self-blame. When I think about rape the way that the law does, it is inevitably punishing. Despite the law’s promise to punish the criminal, it only realizes that punishment through the ruthless interrogation of victims—legal justice’s necessary cruelties.

Legal frameworks for rape encourage this type of thinking; the type that warps our rightful sense of woundedness or victimhood and instead seems to anticipate an imaginary prosecutor’s line of questioning: Is it possible you suggested your consent through physical actions or gestures? Why didn’t you leave that hotel room? Wasn’t it you who said hello to them first on the casino floor?

The legal burden for proving rape colonizes my own mind, shaping the very way I conceive of what happened to me even as I refuse to subscribe to to its external pressures. There is a kaleidoscopic collection of moments that appear to me from that night in the hotel in which I could have done something differently. I replay every minute, every moment within a minute and then within a second, forever landing upon exponentially smaller and smaller units of time in which I could have avoided what happened: The minute I walked with those men toward the hotel elevator becomes an infinite array of minuscule, failed opportunities that would have meant my life went another, better way. On a grander scale, this same type of questioning creates an automatic, even reflexive doubt of victims. When whether something “is rape” or not is also always a question of a standard to be proved, then rape itself becomes a pardadox: a violent act that occurs at such high rates it can be technically considered an epidemic, and yet also always a open question attached to a standard that must be proven. Unless rape can be recognized and adjudicated by a court, the rape has effectively not occurred. I don’t mean this merely as just some external measure that exists at odds to a rape victim’s knowledge of what’s happened to her. Institutional standards for sexual assault creep into and infiltrate our private, most intimate understandings of our own lives—our felt experiences are, after all, not at all immune from being discursively constructed.

When our most powerful institutions tell us what healing and repair are and aren’t, and how the versions of them that are available should make us feel, turning to the realm of the experiential and the emotional counters that wish fulfillment logic of the state and institutions. How institutions monopolize our sense of what rape is, our knowledge of it as a crime and violent harm, takes hold not only of our intellect, our conscious and logical understanding of rape, but our affects and emotions as well. The disparity between what institutions tell us we should want or desire as rape victims, or what they tell us was or was not our real experience of sexual assault, creates a cognitive dissonance that is confounding to reconcile.

In part, this happens because unlike Sorry, Baby, most media portrayals of rape often also endorse institutional logic and knowledge. For instance, the 2018 film She Said, a slightly fictionalized, narrative depiction of the reportage behind the bombshell New York Times article that publicly outed Harvey Weinstein as a serial rapist, emotionally reconstructs both interviews with Weinstein’s victims as well as his ultimate downfall, and in doing so, links victims’ emotional catharsis with Weinstein’s loss of institutional power. The film does this so effectively that it becomes difficult as a viewer to pry apart its emotional constellation of sorrow, agony, and ultimate triumph from the institutional logic that guides the film’s sense of what constitutes justice for rape victims. This mirrors a wider scale confusion that rape victims are faced with: the dissonance between their emotional and experiential realities and the solutions that are made available to us. As a result, it becomes ever more difficult to locate and identify our actual feelings, experiences, and wishes when they are constantly filtered through the logic of institutional repair.

And yet the grammar of institutions is that of the subjunctive, the ‘as if”: as if arresting and incarcerating someone could change them, as if arresting and incarcerating someone could change what they did to you. Without such fantasies, we are left with stark reality, with the realization that this did happen to you, hurt you, and change you irreparably. That means that to counter such insidious, impossible fantasies, I’ve found my only refuge is to return relentlessly to the reality of what happened to me and to accept the daily heartbreak that there is no form of repair, institutional or otherwise, that exists that will ever change what happened, as much as I might wish otherwise. When I was young and dreamed of one day being a writer, I never thought that this would be what I’d write about.

It also means relentlessly, painstakingly turning to the realm of emotion and experience as a means to counter the fantasy of institutional justice. For me, when I think about rape, I think about sorrow, about loss, about how it made everything in the world around me ugly, how for months it felt like someone had died, and about how I am always screaming at people who will never hear me. Rape acquainted me with a new category of sadness. I think about how hard it still is to keep my face frozen and not cry whenever I hear mundane words and phrases like “Las Vegas,” or “girl’s trip,” or “gang.” I think about how lonely I still feel so often because I do not know anyone in my life who can precisely intuit or inhabit the exact nature of what it is I feel. I think about how whenever I have to tell someone new in my life what happened, I tell them that it’s all OK, that it happened a long time ago now, and with every day that passes that comes closer and closer to one day being true.

Abolition takes such reality as it is and dares to dream of a better world regardless. It is also, crucially, a movement and belief system that allows us to mourn rape and its devastating emotional truths. Outside of abolitionist frameworks, the suffering and pain caused by rape and other violent crimes become fodder for mass incarceration. When grief is so easily transformed into the justification for carceral (and genocidal) aims, it can feel as if publicly grieving for rape is an irresponsible or outright dangerous thing to do.

In my own writing and scholarship about rape, I can often feel within myself a hesitancy or nervousness in my emphasizing rape’s sorrows, in my attempt to give language to rape’s category of sadness, for fear of how that sadness can so easily be repurposed towards structures and systems that I utterly disavow. Abolition, which refuses to repurpose that sadness, is not the framework that has offered me answers about what kind of repair it is I seek, but perhaps this is because it is a movement that is necessarily speculative—it conceives of and plans for a world that does not yet exist. Instead, it is the framework that has accommodated my grief. It expands in response to, listens to, and carefully considers grief, even if the exact answers it might offer are still to come, unlike the overdetermined and singular responses to rape—to grief—that legal frameworks offer.

If I have any aim in this essay, it is to try to use my language and the reconstruction of my feelings to articulate a grief that I do not want to be repurposed. If my writing in this essay has seemed devoid of hope or optimism, it is because I want to see how hard I can press down on grief without letting it be stripped from me toward ends that would only ever defer a solution to the kind of violence I’ve experienced. This seems to me a better goal than to continue wondering about a phone out there halfway across the country, locked in time.

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